How many times, on the spur of a PMS moment, have you said hurtful things to the people you love? It’s like you had no control, the words just came out. But despite your later regret, you can’t take them back. The damage has been done – and sometimes it’s irreversible.
You suffer immensely, feeling terrible for the hurt you’ve inflicted. The walls seem to close in around you, and at this moment you think you’re responsible for everything bad that’s happening in your world. You burden yourself with guilt and blame, piling on even more irrational torment – torment the insidious PMS monster inside you smugly fuels.
You’re desperate to break free from this merciless PMS prison. You’re tired of feeling angry, depressed and helpless. You want to feel happy and alive. But you don’t know how. A cycle that repeats itself over and over again…
Believe me, you’re not alone.
In a way, all PMS sufferers live in a prison we’ve created for ourselves. A prison often built upon the false, irrational beliefs that we’ve adopted throughout our lives, consciously or unconsciously.
By understanding these false beliefs and replacing them with beliefs that are based on truths, you can break free from your inner prison and create the love, peace, and joy that you so deeply long for.
False Belief #1: I have to be perfect to be loved.
All your life you try so hard to fit into this perfect image of what you ought to be – an image created by your family, society, and later yourself. You fear to express who you really are because you’re afraid that it’s not enough, and that you’re not enough. If you’re who you are, you won’t be accepted and loved.
The part of you that’s rejected, disowned and repressed comes out to express itself in a violent manner during PMS. But the unique and authentic you is your true nature, and it’s a powerful force that cannot be denied.
You’re perfect in all of your imperfections. Make a new agreement to be who you are – no more, and no less. You’ll see everything in your life changes once you’ve made a decision to be you.
False Belief #2: I’m responsible for everything.
Your inner judge criticizes you all the time. After all, who’s perfect? Inevitably, you always fall short of this impossible expectation. The blame and guilt have kept you in your inner prison of unhappiness. To escape it, you must not take anything personally.
What people say or do comes from their beliefs and perceptions, and most likely has nothing to do with you. Let them be. They are responsible for their own words and actions, and you’re only responsible for yours. This is one of the most liberating realizations I’ve experienced.
False Belief #3: Other people think just like me.
If you think other people think like you do, you’ll inevitably create expectations for them to fulfill your needs, desires and longings, without you even asking. This is especially true in intimate relationships. And this false belief has created much of the pain and suffering you experience in your relationships.
The truth is that no one thinks like you do. So don’t make assumptions, just ask and you’ll find that life is much simpler than you thought it was…
It took me a very long time to learn these lessons. In fact I’m still learning them. Rome was not built in a day. You’ve carried some of these beliefs for a long time. So it’ll take time to eradicate them as well.
Be patient with yourself, and always do your best. Slowly, you’ll see yourself breaking free from your inner prison, brick by brick, and wall by wall… Slowly you’ll experience less anger, less depression and less blame. And slowly you’ll experience more freedom, more joy and more love in your life…