The day before my period started, I felt a deep sadness and a profound loneliness. Looking around at the love and blessings in my life, I knew that the feeling came from distant memories. When the veil between the conscious and the unconscious thins out during the premenstrual phase, these deep and intense feelings surface into my conscious mind, and into the present.
Perhaps you have similar experiences — old pains and hurts that come back to haunt you once a month. They may be triggered by current events or physical discomfort. But deep down you know it’s not from that, not completely anyway. These excessive emotions can weigh you down, clog up your creative energy, and gray your outlook on life.
If you want to focus your energy on creating the life your heart truly desires, it’s important to release the excessive emotional weight you’ve been carrying around for a very long time…
I believe the menstrual cycle is a blessing for women and a precious gift from Mother Earth. Its rhythmic dance between the creation and destruction allows us to tap into the deepest layer of our psyche, and our very soul. It provides us with an opportunity to release, to heal, and to recreate. It is during these times that we are most deeply in touch with our feelings and intuitions.
However, it can be difficult to step back and look at these feelings, let alone consciously release them, while you are experiencing them so intensely during the premenstrual phase. It may actually be better to work on releasing them while you are feeling all right.
There is a simple and effective method (the Sedona Method) that’s helped me to get in touch with, understand, and release some of my challenging emotions. It may be a useful toolbox to bring along with you on your inner journal to self-inquiry, discovery and healing.
Let me use the feeling of sadness as an example.
Allow yourself to take a few moments and remember the last time that you experienced sadness. Then give yourself a few moments just to be with whatever feelings this memory brings up in this moment.
Ask yourself the following questions:
Can I allow myself to welcome this feeling the best I can?
Can I allow myself to let it go?
Will I let it go?
Be there. Feel, see, hear, smell, or sense what’s come up for you. Do nothing, just watch thoughts, feelings and sensations coming and going, forming and dissolving, in front of your eyes. Experience them deeply, completely, and totally…
Do this a few times until you feel as though you are able to release some or all of what you are feeling.
This same method applies to any emotions you want to release and free yourself from.
I can hear you asking, “How long will this take to release my emotions? Is this the magic pill that will make all of my unwanted emotions disappear, once and for all?” I asked myself the same questions.
I’ve looked everywhere, but I haven’t yet found that magic pill. What I’ve learned, however, is to be patient and loving. These are the greatest teachers and healers for our pains and sufferings.
The truth is that some wounds leave scares. They may always be there with you and be a part of your emotional makeup. But it is quite possible for you to unload their excessive weight and untie their tight holds. It is also quite possible for them to dissolve into the background instead of staying at the forefront of your life.