I read that in some ancient cultures women got to retreat into a Moon Lodge, Menstrual Hut or Red Tent during menstruation. It was a sacred place for women to renew, recharge, connect with one another and receive spiritual guidance.
Foods were prepared and delivered to the moon lodge. Women were completely discharged from their worldly duties and responsibilities so they could turn their attentions inward and care for themselves.
I have been longing for such a place during my menstruation – time of solitude, rest, inner reflection, and a state of just being away from the busy goings on that are such a big part of my daily life.
But it’s not easy to find a place like that in our modern world. Then I thought, why not create one at home? It has to allow me to attend to my own needs, yet be practical, feasible and flexible enough so I don’t have to dramatically change my life. Impossible? Maybe not.
Here are some ideas I’ve come up with…
1. Plan for it.
For me the first day of menstruation is the most important time – when my desire for a Moon Lodge is the strongest. You may have a different time. Make a note for your special day and leave it as open as possible. Reschedule appointments, dining out, travelling, and other activities.
2. Share your plan.
I think for our plans to work, it’s important to enlist the support of those living with us. You don’t have to tell them every detail of your plan. It’s sufficient to express your need for some quiet time on this particular day.
3. Have foods prepared for you.
If you can, request that your partner, parents or roommate cook for you on that day. If this is not possible, stock up with healthy and nourishing foods ahead of time, so you can make a simple meal for yourself without having to leave your house and go to the store.
4. Block out a time.
I know it’s very difficult to have the entire day off given work and family obligations. Just reserve a block of time, say an hour or two, for your moon-time solitude.
5. Create a space.
If you have a spare room, use it as your Moon Lodge. If not, use your bed, a chair or a space in your garden. It can be anywhere. It doesn’t matter really. Light a candle, burn a stick of incense, have some fresh flowers around – beautify it, glorify it and make it your own.
6. Attend to yourself.
This time is for you only – to fulfill whatever needs you have. Maybe you just want some quiet time to read, to medicate, to journal, or to do nothing. Do whatever feels good from the inside.
7. Connect with your inner guidance.
Quiet time is often illuminating. It can provide insights on what’s not working in your life, which areas need adjustment, and guidance on how to move forward with your life and relationships. Be wide open to receive whatever message comes your way.
8. Share sisterhood.
If you have girlfriends or sisters who also menstruate at the same time, it’d be wonderful to share some nurturing girl time together. Or you can share with us on Cycle Harmony Facebook page.
Do you have any good ideas on how to create your Moon Lodge at home? Please share them!