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At a Crossroad

Last updated on March 23, 2018 By Vild P. 5 Comments

These last few weeks there have been indications of many changes in my life, and in some ways I feel as if I am at a crossroad. Crossroads are good as they can take you in new directions. They can lead you on adventures and to unexpected places, but they also involve decisions. And they can be a bit scary because they might take you into the unknown and unpredicted.

I’ve got some important decisions coming up, but before I get down to making up my mind I need to look at who I am. It’s time for taking stock.

I’m a kaleidoscope, a profusion of aspects, interests, thoughts, impulses, dreams, hopes and experiences.

I’m a human being, and I can’t be accurately labelled.

I will always be “all of those things, and more”.

This is my starting point.

I’ve spent years getting to know myself, and letting all my aspects live and develop. All these different me’s are of equal worth and are now fully integrated into the dynamic, complex and at times, overwhelmed, being that is me.

All my experiences have led me to this point.

I don’t know what it feels like for men to go through this, but I know that for women it’s a really intense and challenging process.

In order to be true to myself, I need to let the cold, cruel side of me breathe as much as the gentle, forgiving side. My anger must run as freely as my laughter. My fears need as much room as my love, and the cowardice in me is as important as the heroic.

Just as my stages of womanhood leave me strong and vulnerable at the same time, so does most of my other aspects, talents or potentials.

I am not a struggle of opposites, I am what constitutes the human existence.

Some might call it chaotic, I call it rich. Some might think it turbulent, to me it’s being alive.

The lifelong process of becoming a better person involves learning to let all these parts of me live, to not supress them, and at the same time to learn to respond and behave appropriately.

Much of this process depends on how well I am able to hold several seemingly contradictory thoughts, feelings, impulses or impressions in my mind at the same time. On the one hand this is a cognitive ability that you can either do or not, yet on the other it’s a skill that can be practiced like playing the trumpet, where years of, dedicated practice is required to give a high level of skill.

Right now, I’m becoming aware that as a woman, I am wanting a certain kind of life, a certain quality of life with certain envisaged rewards.

I’m wanting to be clever and beautiful, yet ordinary and kind, to work hard and have time with friends and with my loved ones, to enjoy the strength of my adult years at the same time as I experience and grow from weakness, and adversity.

In other words, I’m wanting more of what I’ve got now. I want it to go on. I don’t know that it will – but my stocktake tells me that I’m happy, stimulated and in growth. Now I can go forward and think about those decisions I’ve got to make.

cycle-harmony-bloggerFinding the community of Cycle Harmony has made a huge difference to me. I am delighted to be writing to you from the Red Tent  and hope to share thoughts and experiences you recognise, or find useful to ponder upon. I look forward to working with you all in exploring what it is to be women, and hope to hear from you. ~ Vild

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  1. Vild says

    September 10, 2013 at 1:47 pm

    Thanks darlings! I’m so glad you know what I’m writing about – it’s always good to share experiences, don’t you think? I love how life isn’t static, and how we change and grow! Making decisions and facing crossroads can be hard, but it’s enriching, don’t you find? I’m certainly enjoying being at this crossroads for now 🙂

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  2. beachgirl33140 says

    September 10, 2013 at 11:42 am

    There are certain times in your life you just know are transition periods. This year has been a big one for me, I can relate to the feeling of being pulled in several directions, and also with the excitement of knowing I am chiseling out a more solid identity for myself.

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  3. Sonal says

    September 5, 2013 at 6:57 am

    OMG …. after reading this, I felt even I was there at times and will have to be there again. Decision making is always overwhelming and when it involves everyone around you, the pressure is 100times more.
    Though far away… we stand together
    the thread of womanhood binds us all.
    You will surely come through as a better and bigger person.
    Take care Vild.

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  4. Vild says

    September 5, 2013 at 2:15 am

    Thanks Jing – your encouragement means a lot! Women have to stand together, and sharing who we are, weak and strong, makes us all stronger!

    Love to you too 🙂

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  5. Jing says

    September 4, 2013 at 2:53 pm

    Vild, you’re a strong, compassionate and wise woman. And I trust that whatever decision you’re about to make is going to help you grow and experience more beauty and richness in life! Love and blessings to you dear…

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